How I discovered that not having a maternity photo shoot wasn’t a good idea.

25/07/2019

Ok, this is a hard one, but they say being honest pays.

So here we go: I have barely any pictures of my pregnancy.

First of all, I want to make some things clear: I believe that pregnancy and giving birth are a few of the most empowering, beautiful, unique things that only we, women, can do. We are badasses, goddesses, and we should feel and be treated like that.

But also, I want other women knowing that it can happen and it’s ok: most of us don’t feel comfortable with having a big belly, period.

It’s a big change, it happens very fast, we have a lot of new hormones going around our body, we feel a lot of pressure from social media, tv, and magazines telling us that the nice-little-belly-that-tinny-women have during their pregnancies is perfect, but as soon as possible we have to “get our body back” (as if our body has go away).

Selfportrait with a big pregnant belly at my own house, looking down a little shy because I wasn't feeling very happy with my body
yes, people, that’s me

During my pregnancy, I thought maternity photos should ALWAYS look like this. And because of that, I didn’t want pictures of my pregnancy.

It was hard to feel myself pretty, it was hard to look at the camera and smile, I hated my body and on top of that, everybody was asking for pictures!!

Pregnant woman smiling and petting her cat while having it upon her belly, both lying on the couch in a mini photoshoot made at home

And then one day, it happened. I was lying on my couch and my cat did what she does everytime somebody leans back: she got upon my stomach looking for my hand to pet her.

When my husband saw that, he took the photo.

And I loved this picture. I still do.

It’s not a maternity photo shoot, it’s the image of a moment. An intimate, cozy, tender moment.

Pregnant woman peting her cat
Cupple in their maternity photoshoot, in the park, being close and caresing the beautiful pregnant belly.

I discovered that a good way of having pictures of this moment, in case we don’t feel goddesses, but we daydream so much and feel so much of that sweet anticipation, it’s having a photo shoot where we are keen to capture the moment and not the pose.

I started offering that to my clients. And I made another discovery:

If you have young children… and especially if you have wild, badass children, documentary photography fits perfect with them.

Documentary photoshoot of a family while expecting their second child, having breakfast, cooking togheter
Family and baby photographer amsterdam
Natural photo session of pregnant woman and her toddler while they're painting her belly and play together, Amsterdam Photographer.

Today, I have very little pictures of my pregnancy. It makes me sad, I feel guilty about that (even when I shouldn’t) and I remember those days with so much love and I feel so empowered about having had the blessing of being pregnant and bringing a new person into this world.

I encourage women to have a photo shoot of their pregnancy. No matter the style you chose, you will love the pictures later. It’s a unique moment.

And even when it’s hard (believe me, I know, I’ve been hospitalized 3 times because hyperemesis), even when with pregnancy some other monsters wake up to make your life difficult, pregnancy it’s still life, it’s power, it’s one of the most magnificent things that happen in the world and you are fortunate to have that.

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